In this instance, you can.
Its just not always easy.
One way to search for numbers and ways out but cover your tracks online is to go to the library or. use "private browsing". Erasing your browser history is also a nifty trick.
Here is a website. http://www.safehorizon.org/index/get-help-8/for-domestic-violence-35.html?gclid=COSI2Zfx6rMCFZGPPAoddxgAlw
If at all possible you should call the National Abuse Hotline.
1-800-621-4673(hope)
That number actually goes with the same website.
1-888-3737-888
1−800−799−SAFE(7233)
TTY- 1−800−787−3224
Now those numbers are useful.
Friends, call them. Family. Ask them. If its them you have these numbers.
If you have friends and family who can hell, bite the bullet of shame.
I know the fear, I know its hard. You CAN do it!
Its possible.
Restraining orders are viable assets, as long as you make sure you get them and call. NEVER go out of your way to help them violate a restraining order unless the officer tell s you to do it. Right then and right their, which of course they won't. Because that would be wrong. *whistles*
Now if you have kids, for instance as I did in my situation. Knowing and planning are crucial. Those children's safety in leaving. I know that was my main concern.
Plan. The blow ups. Their is always a sign it is about to happen even if he gets you too psyched to see it, calm down, think clearly and with purpose. It helps.
Know thy abuser. They know you. Know them.
Plan, children to safety first. If your partner will hurt you, they will hurt those children.
It may not be to that point but it progresses. They get more comfortable hurting you and I guarantee leaving them in it makes them a target for abuse. An abuser needs a target. Without one they feel inadequate. It is their crutch.
Always plan for them too. I was appalled to learn some don't and so felt the need to say this.
Take your first opportunity and don't think about it. If you think about it you will go back. Cling to that determination and when they call apologizing... don't listen.
Individual situations need different plans so call those numbers and they can help you. The police are also a good resource. Call your local PD. They were a big help in getting me and my family safe. Their are good officers out their for those who haven't ever met one. And yeah, their are not so great ones too. I am glad we had a good one... a good one who was really sick of coming out to handle my husband apparently and only happy to take him away in cuffs and help us be safe. ^-^ I will never forget him and will always be thankful for those who came out that day and did what they did. If they ever read this. "Thank you." I know they can't possibly hear it enough.
Now... the easiest way of all to get out is to not get in it(of course).
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