Purse Test

OK, so the Purse test is designed to pinpoint and help you avoid abusers. It isn't the only test and some who pass this test won't pass others.

The Purse test, goes like this.

Before a date, make sure you don't have anything too important(just in case) in your purse. Keep the minimum. If you had your social security card int heir basically, take it out. Though I find keeping a sanitary feminine product to be amusing for this.

Just keep in mind, nobody SHOULD ever go through your purse, but their are some who will.

So...

Your out, your in a spot sitting down, you have to pee(or you don't and you need to go for some other reason such as "powdering your nose" as they call it-fixing your hair-something)... you ask them to watch your purse for you.

Keep it memorized, every angle and which way you have it. Before you do this you need to know exactly where your purse is, and all contents and where they are. And don't be nervous about it. your not doing anything bad, just a test.

Ok, so your in. The bathroom that is.

Spend an extra couple minutes. Keeping your cell phone in your bra instead of your purse is something I find useful for this(plus if they fail they don't get that too-fact of life-if they fail this test they fail other tests with it-its too basic for them not to), watch your time.

About five, ten minutes after you enter the bathroom, exit.

If your purse has moved, been opened, you as a woman need to leave them like you would a sack of potatoes. No more dates. I they call you for another date, just let them go, don't' tell them they failed some sort of test, just tell them they are not your type, which is true.

Unless you specifically tell that person to go in your purse and get that specific item you asked for... nobody shoudl go in your purse. THAT is yours.

A person that will go through your purse will go in your phone, your online accounts, etc.

Like I said, it is so basic they are not even worth another test. If they fail this one, they fail them all.

Some ways to make this amusing and more obvious.

Place things you know your date would find utterly embarrassing in your purse(for guys this is usually tampons and pads-not sure for women as I know too many perverts and it isn't the same it would be for me-some guys don't get embarrassed by this either but hey-when they do it is amusing). THEN for sticking their noses where they shouldn't' be.... you get to see them get uncomfortable as knowing someone went through your purse makes you(is ANYONE comfortable with someone going through their purse?)

Ok... so I am guilty of that SLIGHT payback moment... *sticks out tongue childishly*. I have no shame in this. At least I admit it.

On the flip side, anyone who sees someone go through their friends purse should always tell them. Keep to honesty though.

And for the guys who don't have purses or who are just not using them that day(I do have gay friends who don't always use their purses-I think I even have one who doesn't have one at all)... I am going to figure something else out. But just so you know, going through your phone or Facebook and changing your settings and talking shit to your friends falls under this clause.

Because no abuser stops at this, and every abuser gets worse with time.

If they go through your purse, they will go through everything else. You may not have anything to hide hun, but... it doesn't matter. This isn't theirs, its yours. Even when you get married their are things that are just yours as every healthy relationship has. These aren't big things, but small things. Ten years from now accidentally using each other razors won't be a big deal, but you won't be going into the wallet without them telling you to the same way they need to not go through your purse.

This is a two way barrier.

You need to keep in mind that for a healthy relationship and to avoid abuse, you too need to be mindful.


"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"

-Luna 

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Types, and tricks to get out if your already in an abusive relationship