Introduction

Hi. I am Luna. ^-^

A little about why I am starting this blog.

I want to help others avoid abuse.

Their, done. Thats my reason. ^-^



So anyway, moving on, their are several types of abusers.

You have your "future rapist" type.

You have your "money control" type.

You have your "crazy making" type.

Of course everyone knows the "hitting" type.

"Control" typing.(though all abuse is about control).

Alot of types actually fit more than one mold... and truthfully this is just what I call them, their are really more types.

Abuse is about control, not about love.

The following things you should flat out run if it happens.

Name calling. If they call you names(like bitch, whore, slut, anything you do not personally tell them they can call you other than your name-and the occasional pet name for those who you know long enough-actual pet names-no partner should ever call you names-ever)... just so you know putting you down in any way shape or form is also included here.

Hitting. Unless you have some weird date where your attacked from an outside source and he is defending you... yeah, no. And please avoid guys who set that kind of stuff up... the guy who jumps you had better not be told to do so(I know one person who I would suspect if this happened-staged his own dammed kidnapping once too-then admitted it and called it a joke-guess a reason why we never will ever date).

Violating your personal space(IE: your purse, your online accounts, your diary, your cell phone, your mail), cuz it doesn't matter if your married or dating, or partnered up for life... this is wrong. The ONLY time this is OK is if you give permission, or my therapist said in the case of cheating(meaning you know and are checking). Personally though I would avoid those things in checking for cheating... though I found out plenty from my husbands text messages(been separated for quite a while and not a chance in hell of us ever getting back together-If only I had known then what I do now)... and his Facebook(though I didn't hack that-he left it open along with his yahoo and I got glimpses while logging him out to get into my own-so the entire "I never cheated on you" thing... besides that I heard from a couple women he propositioned... yeah. no luck pal---be a cold day in hell before I ever believe you were faithful).

Cheating. If your in an "open relationship" and are seeing other people... alright but you kinda both should agree. if you don't want an open relationship and they do... then don't stay. leave. that's about all I can tell you their.

If your date says something like "we will go anywhere you want" and you pick a place and they shoot you down... walk. Do not go out on another date with them. Pure and simple. Its a controlling behavior designed to rip the foundation from under your feet so to speak. Destabilizes the situation. Makes it easier to control you when your unsure and insecure. If they do this or LIE to you... run. also, turning the blame around on you and such things(will go more into detail as this blog continues).

Pressures you into sex. Don't laugh, its true. And if you do have sex with them and they try to get you to do things you don't want to do even when you have said(communication of your wishes is still your responsibility), or pushed(in some circumstances-I am aware some fetishes include gags... not my thing but I have friends who like it) them away, then run like hell. These behaviors progress.

Now all abuse is about control and NO abuse is OK.

Theirs a lot more I am going to cover here, and don't worry. their are ways to avoid these partners and figure out who's who. We will cover that too.

I honestly couldn't even begin to cover it all in one blog. Their is just so much of it.

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-Luna